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The Advice Trap by Michael Bungay Stanier Book Review

“Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever”

From the Bestselling author of The Coaching Habit

In his book, The Advice Trap, Michael Bungay Stanier teaches about changing the way you lead so you change your team and your organization, and most importantly, yourself.

We love to pounce on anything that shows up even when it’s not the actual thing that needs to be figured out. We’re keen on giving insights and solutions but fail to take time in realizing the real problem at hand. This is when Michael Bungay Stanier’s new book, The Advice Trap comes in.

The Advice Trap is all about taming your “advice monster,” and staying curious a little longer, to get to the root of the problem in order to be able to solve the right problem. Because more often than not, we’re addressing the wrong problem without even realizing it.

It takes on the concept of “less is more.”

Giving less advice is encouraged.

However, the definition of coaching doesn’t say “never give advice” or “only ask questions” according to Michael. That would be deeply impractical. Rather, it implies that advice-giving is usually an overdeveloped muscle. What you’re trying to do is train an underdeveloped muscle: CURIOSITY.

Michael talks about intellectual curiosity and being more coach-like instead of becoming a coach. Curiosity leads to questions, leading to answers.

According to Michael, in order to be more coach-like, one of the qualities one needs to have is humility. In his book, he defines being humble as knowing that your voice isn’t the only voice, and may not be the best voice.

What I realized after reading The Advice Trap is that the secret to advice-giving is actually in the questions you ask rather than in the insights you offer.

“Learning doesn’t happen when you tell them something, it happens when they figure it out themselves.”

The 7 essential questions introduced in The Advice Trap is a gem such as the kickstart question, the strategy question, the lazy question, and more. These questions serve as a guide in finding solutions to your problem.

Oftentimes, we only look at the surface of the problem when it’s actually deeper than we thought. It’s like peeling an onion. You have to get through the layers of questions before finding out the real problem at hand and dealing with it.

The Advice Trap also introduces the 8 ways to ask a question well. Yes, there is a right way to ask a question, and there’s 8 ways to do it well!


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In this book, you will also come to know what “coaching the ghost” mean, what the “TERA Quotient” is and how to increase it.

At the end of every chapter, there is a space for you to write down the most useful insight that you got from the chapter to help you remember the important points of the book.

Overall, The Advice Trap is an insightful read. A treasure trove of infinite value.

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Back to Christmas by Dennis Canfield Book Review


The Krumwerths are in the Naughty List for the third consecutive year.

Will they be in the Permanent Naughty List and be doomed forever?

Or will they be able to discover the true meaning of Christmas in their hearts and save themselves from the impending doom ahead?

Book Title: Back to Christmas

Author: Dennis Canfield

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My Thoughts on Back to Christmas

Fast-paced and unputdownable, I finished it in one sitting. I was thinking of reading a few chapters before cooking dinner, but then I got hooked. It’s just unputdownable.

I love the writing style and I love the chapter titles.

“Back to Christmas” stresses the importance of spending quality time with family and how technology, despite its convenience, distracts us from forming meaningful connections with the people around us which I think is a pretty big issue that almost everyone can relate to.

I can’t stop myself from laughing at this: “Amanda, do you remember when we made this one? You were four years old. You thought the glitter was so pretty you dumped the whole jar in your hair.”

I like this line from the book:

“Sometimes, crazy is exactly what we need.” -Santa

I personally like reading the Table of Contents of a book because I think it makes the story more intriguing.

Like Chapter 10 in Back to Christmas having the chapter title, “Do You Remember?” and chapter 12 “I Haven’t Figured That Out Yet.”

It makes me curious as to what the memory is, and as to what he hasn’t figured out yet.

I think that’s one of the reasons that it got me hooked up and wanting to read the next chapter immediately.

That is why, I have added the chapter titles of “Back to Christmas” in this review.

Back to Christmas

Chapter 1: Head Labeling Elf

Chapter 2: Can I Do It Later?

Chapter 3: The Permanent Naughty List

Chapter 4: Even Santa

Chapter 5: The North-South Pole

Chapter 6: You Mean a Real Elf?

Chapter 7: Invisible

Chapter 8: Certifiably Hopeless

Chapter 9: Three Tasks

Chapter 10: Do You Remember?

Chapter 11: It Isn’t Certain, Is It?

Chapter 12: I Haven’t Figured That Out Yet

Chapter 13: Trust Me, It’s For The Best

Chapter 14: Sundown

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Stillness Is The Key by Ryan Holiday Book Review

“Stillness is a powerful way to find contentedness and success in life.”

In his book, “Stillness Is The Key,” Ryan Holiday talks about the importance of stillness in our day to day lives.

According to Ryan, “Stillness is not about inactivity. It’s about powerful moments that change our lives.”

Stillness help us think clearly, avoid distraction, conquer impulses, and eventually find happiness.

We are constantly stressed out from overflowing inboxes and constant stream of social media notifications popping up every minute.

Prominent people from all walks of life are being featured in this book and how they cultivate stillness into their lives; including John F. Kennedy, Tiger Woods, Anne Frank, and other figures.

“If people could find peace within themselves, they would still be able to think, work, and be well even if the world is at war.” -Philosopher Seneca

Ryan Holiday also talks about slowing things down and being in the present moment in his book, “Stillness Is The Key.”

Nowadays, we take photos instead of enjoying a beautiful sunset. We take several photos of our food taking time to get the perfect angle to look pretty on Instagram, instead of eating it while it’s still warm and delicious. We check our phones while staying in line at the grocery store.

We’re constantly bombarded with information. Too much of anything is not good. Including too much information.

In a busy, noisy world, stillness is the key to peace, clarity, and happiness.

Ryan Holiday also talks about how journaling is a time of reflection. I couldn’t agree more.

I used to journal a few years back. No wonder I was more calm and collected than I am now. I journal from time to time though, when I remember. This book reminded me how freeing it is to write your thoughts down. Or even just be still and listen to my own thoughts.

Keep a journal. Write down your thoughts before going to bed and you’ll find yourself being free from those noisy thoughts swirling in your head and you’ll be able to sleep soundly.

Journal. Get things off your chest. Find stillness through writing and reflection.

I’m a night person so I don’t wake up early. That’s why during days that I miraculously wake up early, I enjoy the break of dawn with a cup of tea before everyone else awakens. Before the horns start blaring and the children chatter excitedly on their way to school.

A constant companion during these peaceful hours in the morning is a good book and my stuffed animal. Occasionally, a crow would fly near the windowsill as if to say, “Good morning. I see you have woken up early today. Have a nice day.” It does a couple hops towards me but doesn’t get too close, and then it flies away in search for its breakfast.

In “Stillness Is The Key,” Ryan Holiday also talks about the importance of taking naps. I used to take naps when I was in college. I call it a “power nap” where I would take naps for 20-30 minutes after having lunch. When I wake up, I feel refreshed, my head clear of any unnecessary thoughts, and then I head off to take classes.

We tend to feel that there is always something to do. We tell ourselves that we need to reply to that mail. That we have to join the last-minute outing that out friends invited us to. We don’t need to do everything all at once. There is no need to add another thing in our already full plate. You’ll just end up with leftovers and you won’t feel good afterwards.

STOP. Be present. Know your limits. Learn to say, “NO.”

Give attention to your physical health, to your spirit and mind, and you can cultivate “stillness.”

You can feel the “power of stillness” in your life when you slow things down. Calm things down. Quiet things down. Embrace stillness today. 

Overall, “Stillness is the Key by Ryan Holiday,” is a very insightful read.

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This I Know by Eldonna Edwards Book Review 

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Title: This I Know

Author: Eldonna Edwards 

Genre: Historical Fiction, Young Adult, Coming of Age, Literary Fiction 

Date Published: April 24, 2018

My Thoughts on This I Know

A heart-warming story of a girl who can predict the future.

Grace has the knowing, meaning she is able to see the future. She knows what will happen. If seen positively, it is a very wonderful gift as it can prevent disasters and even save lives. But her father, a preacher, sees this negatively as the devil’s work. She then gets scolded whenever she shows her ability.

Will she find a way to convince her father that the knowing is a gift and not a curse?

Beautifully written and elaborately told, this story will linger in your mind long after the last page has been turned.

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All Things New by Lauren Miller Book Review

Breaking Up Is Hard to Do But You Could Have Done Better Book Review 

Find Your Awesome by Judy Clement Wall Book Review 

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How to Walk Away by Katherine Center Book Review 

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Book TitleHow to Walk Away

Author: Katherine Center

Date Published: May 15, 2018

Genre: Fiction, Romance, Women’s Fiction, Chic Lit, Contemporary 


The best day of her life and the worst day are the same day. On the 14th of February, Valentine’s Day, Chip proposes to Margaret in the plane that he’s driving. Just after the proposal, when they both thought that the future is certain, the most unexpected thing happens. Will Margaret find her happily ever after?

My Thoughts on How to Walk Away by Katherine Center:

This is my first Katherine Center book and it’s one of my best reads this 2018!

Captivating, inspirational, and unputdownable, every page will keep you on your toes.

Let me share to you my top 3 favorite scenes.

Favorite scene #1:

At the rooftop

Two people are alone with a scenery. I don’t know about you but I find scenes like this very romantic. Adults are acting like teenagers, Ian shares about his past, meaning he gets comfortable with her and trusts her. You know you’ve got him when he lets you in to his life by telling you about his past. Not to mention he carried her piggyback through the hallways, made her wear his sweatshirt, and told her about his mistakes. Cutest scene in the book.

Fave scene #2: 

At the pool

Favorite Scene #3: 

Saucer smashing

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